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The first date is all about first impressions. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you are not, but you shouldn’t be someone who presents themselves in an eager, rude, or negative way. If you want your first date to lead to a second date then there are some very important dos and don’ts that you need to remember!
5 Things To Do on a First Date
DO make sure that you use your communication skills wisely! Listen to your date and actually respond with questions or answers that make sense so that they know that you are really paying attnetion them. This will make them feel as though you are really interested in them, and everyone likes to feel like that!
DO show emotion on your date by smiling and laughing. There is nothing worse than telling a joke and having your date sit there like a statue. My husband still talks about how hurt he was that I didn’t laugh at some of his jokes. Thankfully he was able to look past the hurt! But some people won’t.
DO focus on maintaining eye contact with your date. If you are looking everywhere but at them then they will start to wonder whether you are really having a good time on your date.
DO remember that you don’t know this person very well. They may be someone who does not have the best intentions for you, no matter how friendly they seem to be. Take caution and do not let yourself be susceptible to being harmed by your date.
DO keep the conversation going by having a list of questions and topics to talk about in your head. Make the list before your date and that way you will never have to endure awkward silences on your date – unless of course your date talks in one word sentences!
5 Things To NOT Do on a First Date
DON’T let yourself get carried away with the alcohol. If you get drunk then your ‘stupid guard’ will come down and you may end up saying some things, or doing some things, that you will regret later. Your date doesn’t know you well enough to forgive stupid actions!
DON’T show up in sweat pants or a hole filled shirt. This is your first impression and if you can’t be bothered to make the best physical impression possible now then your date may wonder what you look like when you are not trying!
DON’T lay all your faults, problems, and bad habits out on the table for your date to see. They do not want to hear anything negative about you at this point. They are trying to figure out whether your positives are something they want to get to know more of, and they may not be able to look past any really bad negatives at this point. Save those conversations for a later date!
DON’T talk about your ex relationships. This is the number 1 complaint I see over and over again. Bringing up your exes only shows that you have not gotten over them – even if you are talking negatively about them. And it also makes your date wonder how you will talk about them if you don’t work out!
DON’T show up late for your date. This is your first date and there is no excuse for you to be late for it! Leave early and hang out close to where you are supposed to meet your date, that way if you have any excusable issues like a small accident, you will most likely be able to still make the date on time.
Bellaisa is the owner of the Relationship Circle. If you are looking for love then head on over to her blog for a peek, and get some relationship advice that you will be able to use.
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